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The Fear of Growing Up

Fear of Growing Up

Being an adult comes with many responsibilities that our modern generations are not always equipped to deal with, hence we have a fear of growing up.  As a nation, many of us are still living at home well into our thirties. Compare that to the 50’s, where the average age was 20, we can see that independence is not always up there on our priorities. We have an ever-growing generation divide between our parents and us when it comes so being self-reliant.


There are several benefits of remaining within the family home for longer, but are you there because you are avoiding growing up and taking on the responsibilities of being independent?

Removing the financial implications of independent living; Is there another reason why you are holding onto the apron strings?

Many find that ‘adulting’ is too difficult. If you feel this way, you are certainly not alone. Up to 10% of the UK’s population aged over 34 are still living at home.

There are psycho-dynamics-conscious and subconscious emotional forces that determine motivation-that underline the tendency to hold onto your childhood perspective. For some, this comes in the form of trauma and defenses formed to relive feelings of distress.

The main barriers to living as an adult exists in the fears associated with becoming responsible.


Fear of Growing Up


There are five main aspects to a fear of growing up:

  1. Separation from parents and care givers.

Removing yourself from the comfort of those who surrounded you daily in your life until the day you moved out can leave you feeling lost and abandoned. When we are frightened or anxious, we desperately try to reconnect with those that offer unconditional support.

  1. Preference to fantasy.

In a nut shell-escapism. One of our defence mechanisms when things become overwhelming is to escape into fantasy. Day dreaming, Disassociation and game play allow us to escape the real world providing much comfort. These habit building patterns become move addictive the more we find ourselves needing to escape reality.

  1. Being alone.

Many of us fear being lonely. We know that independence is positive milestone, but we desperately feel the need to share it with others. This is related to our primitive evolutionary based threat of being separated from our tribe. This is emotionally equivalent to being left to die.

  1. Procreation of life.

Still very apparent in our society is the need or demand to produce off spring. This is yet another added pressure to the situations you are already juggling by the skin of your teeth. It does not allow you to resolve your own dependency needs from your childhood thus increases the likelihood of those being passed down the generations.

  1. Death anxiety.

Anxiety over death comes from both positive and negative events. We are acutely aware of time, the confrontation of our limits and the ultimate demise-death. Those that place a special value on their lives or attain unusual success tend to suffer the most with death anxiety as they fear they have too much to lose.

Fear, especially relating to death, constitutes resilience to fulfill life successfully. It allows us adults to become acutely aware of loneliness, uncertainty and the ambiguity of life. You can aspire to develop mechanisms that allow these emotions to be rationalised. Once you stop being afraid of life outside the door you will realise just how free and inspiring you are.

Contact us today for advice and support on becoming a successful adult.


Hypengyophobia: The Fear of Responsibility

Hypengyophobia is an overwhelming and irrational fear of responsibility. A person with this phobia could be neglecting all responsibilities including at the expense of others. Typically, they are self-indulgent and will actively blame others for their failures.

The word Hypengyophobia, sometimes referred to as Hypegiaphobia, derives from the Greek Hypengyos which means responsible and Phobos meaning fear.
As with all phobias the sufferer will have experienced a traumatic event that has lead them to associate that experience with responsibility. Many who develop Hypengyophobia have previously taken on responsibility and have failed causing unfavorable consequences. Other areas of trigger can include a history of strict upbringing and youth rebellion. Regardless of the cause, the individual may experience emotional turmoil and anxiety that’s destructive to their ability to function as a responsible person.

The signs and symptoms of Hypengyophobia are individual and vary from person to person. Some, when confronted with responsibility may sweat, feel uncomfortable, nauseated and overwhelmed. Those who are severely compromised by the condition may experience panic attacks.

Most cases of Hypengyophobia are self-diagnosed. Many seek talking therapies to help them discover not only the cause but to develop coping mechanisms to help them in daily life.

If you feel this describes you, contact us to discus ways in which we can help you develop proactive coping mechanisms.

Can Hypnotherapy Cure Anxiety?

AnxietyAnxiety is one of the biggest mental health challenge of our time. There are so many of us suffering in silence, battling our inner demons. But can cognitive hypnotherapy really cure us? Read on as Lilly discovers for herself that the reality is far from what you think.

Upon entering the building, I am dubious about the whole affair. My very first memory of anxiety was an intense moment as a teenager. I was sat in the bath worried about the fact that I couldn’t recall all the things I was anxious about. It sounds silly but to me, when things weren’t in order I’d panic-yes, panic about panicking. I clearly remember breathing loudly as I curled my toes around the bath taps desperate not to drown.

This feeling wasn’t new to me. An acute sense of inexplicable worry always lingered over my very being. I would worry that a friend had gone missing because she didn’t return a message. My mind would come up with crazy potential situations of her being kidnapped from school or her parent’s killing her. It felt like I had a demon on my shoulder who was ready to shout the most ludicrous of things at any given moment.

Depression and anxiety are intertwined at the most common health disorder in the UK. A study by The Office for National Statistics discovered that 19% of UK adults have some form of anxiety. Add in the booming student population and that percentage grows to 30%-that equates to over 12 million people.

Sadly, for those that do seek out treatment on the NHS, the options can seem rather bleak. The NHS has heavily invested in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or CBT, but the waiting lists are generally over a year long. There are private treatments available, but these can be costly and with CBT having no specific time frame for completion the costs often outweigh the positives.

So, what about hypnotherapy? Sure, we have all heard of Darren Brown and his school of crisis management but what if it wasn’t like that and it did really cure me of anxiety? I have discovered that hypnotherapy does not involve waving wands or watches, nor magic and brain trickery. It is relaxing and allows you to be open.

Cognitive therapy includes many aspects and techniques of traditional CBT in that you talk trough your issues to change your perception, but with hypnotherapy you are in a far more relaxed state which enables you to change your through origins.

During my first session I began to feel weightless as I was told to count back and forth whilst being aware of my limbs becoming more relaxed. I remember feeling so light that I could float off at any moment although consciously I knew I couldn’t, but it felt nice.

The phrase ‘going under’ is often associated with being anaesthetised. In hypnotherapy this means being relaxed and open to positive suggestion, it has nothing to do with being unconscious at all. I was told that if someone fell asleep-as they often did-they were nudged awake as hypnotherapy requires you to be conscious to change your thoughts.

So, how does it feel to ‘go under’? For me it felt like those last few minutes before you drift off to sleep-the moment when your entire being is relaxed and your breathing is steady-only you don’t go to sleep, you remain like this for an hour.
As I stood up at the end of my last session I still wasn’t convinced that I wouldn’t be attacked on the way home. My hypnotherapists parting words were “try not to feel different”.

Hypnotherapy is often used to conquer bad habits such as smoking and over eating, things that can easily be measured, but with anxiety it isn’t so simple. On a basic level we all need fear in our lives, it’s a basic human instinct we rely upon., but defining what is needed for survival and what isn’t can be a tricky process.

I spent the week between my appointments wondering what I would do if I permanently shut that revolving door of worries, what would I do to fill the void?

At my next appointment I was frustrated that it took me longer to relax than previously but when I did my hypnotherapist repeatedly told me that I had control. Of course, that niggling voice in the back of my head was telling me the complete opposite. I was even less convinced the second time, so I decided to get in contact with a previous client who had the same problem as I do.

Dave told me that he had the same doubts that I possessed but he had continued with the sessions. He said that after the fourth everything just slipped into place. “It sounds ludicrous, but it was like these feelings of control and positivity were planted in my head and silenced all the worry and fear”-and you know what, by my fourth session everything had indeed slotted into place. Suddenly I was a completed jigsaw. Strangely enough, I don’t miss any of it, I don’t even know where I found the time to invest in all that worry and fear.

Hypnotherapy For Sugar Addiction

Often perceived as men waving a pocket watch hypnotherapy can be used to treat a variety of problems from anxiety to insomnia and jealousy to overindulgence.


“Hypnosis is widely promoted as an effective treatment for various long-term conditions and breaking of specific habits.” NHS


Hypnosis does have a positive effect despite there is no strong evidence to support this.


Some scientists see it a relaxation technique that uses the power of suggestion or a procedure that relies purely a placebo effect.


Hypnotherapy is becoming ever more popular in helping those with food addictions, and after realising my sugar addiction has become out of control I went to see a hypnotherapist.


Everyone that has ever had an addiction knows the moment they hit rock bottom, and I was not different. My particular point came after consuming an entire packet of biscuits, a so-called ‘sharing’ bar of chocolate and a brownie one Sunday afternoon -and I was still looking for something else laden with sugar and calories.


Shamefully, this sort of binge was a regular occurrence. I had tried and failed to break this cycle many a time before. I’d tried going cold turkey to weekends only and any obscure diet I could find throwing myself full throttle into it. Inevitably I crashed out of them all within a day or two.


When hypnotherapy was suggested to me I was highly skeptical. Like many, I had only seen poor folk reduced to clucking chickens on television. After doing some research, I discovered hypnotherapy is, in fact, similar to meditation.


“The deep state of relaxation you experience during hypnotherapy has often been compared to the state of being that is achieved from meditation. This is because you are quietening the conscious part of your mind, allowing the subconscious to take over.”


I was concerned about being under and losing control, but it was explained to me that I will always be 100 percent in control during the sessions.


“Hypnosis is the process of re-wiring your subconscious mind in order to make you think differently, not act differently.”


As I began my first session I was asked about my relationship with sugar and what I wanted to achieve.


I didn’t want to be repulsed by sugar-I still wanted to enjoy a treat, but I needed to stop needlessly stuffing my face daily with this poison.


I lay back in the chair and my therapist spoke to me whilst music played in the background. The session was only thirty minutes. I was aware of their voice and my surroundings, but I felt completely relaxed. I felt slightly dazed afterward like I’d awoken from a short nap. I booked an appointment for the following week.


Week one was not a runaway success and I did fully indulge in works ‘biscuit Friday’ but as the week progressed I noticed I wasn’t constantly hunting for sugar.


After the session ended I felt slightly dazed- like anyone would after having a nap – but not too different.


The second session was much like the first, but I noticed how much of a deeper state of relaxation I feel into. I barely remember the thirty minutes after that session, but it was agreed that I should leave it a while before having another session. I was given a CD to listen to at home.


I was tested the very next day when a cake appeared at work. Now normally I’d be the first to cut myself a wedge, but I barely had any interest in the cake. I did have a slither, but I felt nothing. Before hypnotherapy that would have sent me into a crazy spiral of seeking out anything loaded with sugar to reach that high, but I didn’t. The cake didn’t even taste that good for me. Realising this could be the work of hypnotherapy I tested myself again by eating a single biscuit. Once again, I wasn’t overly interested in it and put the packet back, felt one was enough.


It has been months now and I haven’t had a sugar binge, nor do I feel the need to finish every meal with a sweet treat.


My advice is not to expect a miracle cure and especially don’t hold out that just one session is going to cure all-granted, for some it does, but not the majority.

On a final note, be aware of hidden sugars in ‘healthy’ foods because these too can cause sugar issues.

Discover The Benefits of Hypnotherapy

The benefits of hypnotherapy are vast


There are so many benefits of hypnotherapy.

For example, Hypnotherapy is one of the most successful ways to cease smoking both safely and easily.  Recently a client came back to me three years after a smoking cessation course to tell me that he has not had a cigarette since our sessions. A smoking cessation programme costs £150.00. If you smoke 20 cigarettes a day you spend close to £3,000 a year on Tobacco alone – think what you could do with those savings.

If you want to reduce your weight without diets and deprivation, hypnotherapy is a proven way to change eating habits. Hypnotherapy removes these barriers by addressing emotional eating, negative thoughts/feelings associated with your body and desire to eat. The power of your mind can help increase the desire for nourishing foods, water and exercise.


“Hypnotherapy has changed my outlook on food.

I don’t have to eat the chocolate just because it is there.”


Like a drink but want to cut back or stop? Hypnotherapy is the most effective way at removing habits, unwanted behaviours and addictions. It is a quick and completely safe method. Click here to learn more

Chris Fleet Stress management | benefits of hypnotherapyStruggling to cope with stress?

Stress can be a good thing but too much can negatively impact on your life. Stress reduction with hypnosis is an easy way to establish deep relaxation. It is effective in enhancing your general well-being, leaving you calmer, more positive and refreshed.

Re-programme your mind to achieve success in your life be it work or relationship orientated. Hypnotherapy can help motivate and improve self-confidence.

Fears and phobias

Other benefits of hypnotherapy can include dealing with fears and phobias which can hold us back restricting our lives. The unconscious mind’s primary function is to protect us from emotional and physical harm. This is where these types of problems arise from. By going back, you can discover the cause that has brought on the issue which then can be resolved.

One of the lesser known benefits of hypnotherapy is that it’s a powerful way of resolving the negative effects of IBS- so much so that now it is recommended by the NICE guidelines.

Depression and anxiety

Depression and anxiety can because or exacerbated by critical things we say to ourselves. We all have negative thoughts but it is when these take over our lives it becomes damaging. Hypnotherapy can reframe negative cycles and helps us towards positive ones.

Every thought you have has a physical reaction in your body. Start using the power of your mind to heal your body. Hypnotherapy can change the way you feel and the way you view things. We only have one life so we might as make the most of it!

So, if you are someone who wants to stop smoking, lose weight, cut back on alcohol but find your will power wilting -or if a phobia is taking over your life then hypnotherapy is right for you simply by clicking here

Hypnotherapy helps mum pass her driving test

Hypnotherapy has enabled a mother-of-three to pass her test after twenty years suffering anxiety following her brother’s tragic death.

At just seventeen her nineteen-year-old brother was tragically hit by a lorry when riding his motorbike.

The debilitating anxiety that arose from the event prevented her from getting behind the wheel.

Three years ago, she moved to a rural area where she and her three young boys felt isolated.

At the age of 36 and with the help of a hypnotherapist, she has passed her test.


self hypnosis


“My friends were learning to drive at the time but I became fearful. I was so young but so old at the same time, I would see all sorts of danger around every corner.“For me, over the years it became much, much worse and having my own children made it worse. Any circumstances like those in which my brother died would put the fear of God into me. It was crippling.”


Nine months of lesson later and her anxiety was all that stood in the way of passing her test.


Every night before a lesson she would be wide away with worry and panic. In the morning, she would spend a good ten minutes of her lesson talking to the instructor and putting off the inevitable getting into the car part.  She would fret about being in the correct gear to take a corner and dreaded the sight of a roundabout.

She then saw an advert for a clinical hypnotherapist, who had previously helped pass their tests. After the initial consultation, a plan was formulated using Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT for short-a method of releasing emotional energy blockages.


I knew it was what I needed,” she said of the treatment plan. “Just thinking about cars would bring on these feelings of fear but after the first consultation, there was an emotional shift, no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t make that feeling happen. The next time I got in a car my driving instructor couldn’t believe the difference.”


The hypnotherapy treatment took just three sessions.

Performance Anxiety: Is it just in the mind?

Have you ever had to make a public announcement, a speech or presentation and woken up feeling sick at the thought of it? Some call it stage fright but the technical term is performance anxiety.

The relatively harmless symptoms can make your life miserable – sweaty palms, a frequent need of the toilet, heart palpitations and a general feeling of dread.

You start to label yourself a failure, you second guess your worth and your inner mind starts reeling off all your short comings.

Anxiety and depression are medical conditions which should be treated by a doctor. There are medications that can help you sleep, calm your nerves and cope with stress’. But in the same way that curing presentation nerves come from adequate preparation, resolving performance anxiety come from both mental and physical preparation.

Everyone needs a moment of panic to motivate them, so when you find yourself stressing, take a moment to remind yourself that you feel this because you are passionate about what you are going to do.


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A good rule of thumb is 1% panic for 99% hard work and preparation.


Avoidance Mode


The biggest disadvantage of performance anxiety is that you feel bad about something thus you avoid preparations. People feel so awful that they distract themselves with anything but the task at hand.

Typically, playing online games, talking on the phone, cleaning, organising, shopping, cooking, watching TV, and reading books are the most popular distractions.

This can create a vicious cycle – the more you avoid, the more stressed you will become as the even draws nearer. You may become even more avoidant that previously.

Clinical hypnosis can reduce and even remove this state of panic by training the unconscious mind to enable you to achieve.  The techniques apply to those suffering exam nerves, work based anxiety, sports and competitive anxieties, or any time where the spotlight is on you. Several professionals including lawyers, corporate leaders, athletes and performers use hypnosis to help them focus.


Breathe in, Breathe out


A hypnotherapist will generally teach you how to perform breathing exercise, which you can do yourself outside of the session. They are easy to do and take just a couple of minutes.

They will also teach you how to change your inner dialogue so that your inner voice becomes a source of positivity and encouraging words.

The minute you stop stressing your mind clears allowing you to think clearly and productively once again. This is when the hypnotherapist will speak directly to your unconscious mind helping to refocus on behaviours that will help you succeed.

Many feel rejuvenated and confident after treatment because the resistance holding them back has melted away to positive thoughts and actions.

The hypnotherapist will also help you to focus on how you feel after completing the task that made you anxious and use these positive emotions to boost motivation and confidence.

Anxiety Dreams | How to deal with them

What are anxiety dreams?

Break free | anxiety dreams


Dreams are accepted to be a natural part of life, a part of our imagination. Dreams and dream interpretation have fascinated mankind since the dawn of civilisation.

Why do we dream and what do anxiety dreams mean?

Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, two of the more famous therapists, were influential in the field of dreams and interpretation. Freud’s approach was retrospective, in that they were formed of past events usually relating back to childhood. Jung further developed Freud’s ideas by focusing on interpretation and symbolism as influenced by daily living from which we can achieve a balance between our conscious and sub-conscious mind.

Whichever school of thought you subscribe to, most agree that it is feelings of anxiety when our worries and fears cannot be resolved that they can fall into dreams thus turn into nightmares.

Planes falling from the sky, being chased, teeth falling out, falling, being late, being unprepared, etc., are all common anxiety dreams.

Poor sleep

Occasionally we may be troubled by difficult dreams that disturb our sleep causing us to feel tired the next day. anxiety dreamsGenerally, this isn’t anything to be worried about but ongoing sleep problems can lead to serious consequences if this is happening do speak to your doctor.

Some signs that you may be sleep deprived include; Feeling tired, longing to nap, finding it difficult to concentrate, irritable, weight gain and stressed.

Layne Dalfen, founder of The Dream Interpretation centre, Montreal; recurring dreams and nightmares happen because you sub-conscious is trying to gain your attention. If you are troubled by these dreams and they are effacing your daily living a good hypnotherapist can help you to uncover these and realise the cause of anxiety in your sub-conscious mind.

To learn more and book a free consultation click here


The Importance of Mental Strength in Sport

Mental Strength – Are You a Winner or Loser?

FA Cup | Sports MotivationI’ve been inspired to write this blog whilst watching the FA cup final ‘live’ on the BBC iplayer.

Being a football fan and sports hypnotherapist I’ve been looking forward to this game for a while, but with a young family couldn’t watch it live due to a combination of work and Disney movies.

Somehow, I’ve managed to stay clear of the result all day and am excited, but not surprised by what I’m seeing. We’re 17 minutes into the game and Arsenal are winning 1-0 and have had a shot cleared off the line and are completely thumping the run away Premiership winners Chelsea – At the time of typing Arsenal have just hit the post – twice…..

Anyway, before Arsenal hit the post, I was about to say about how it seems that Arsenal looks like the only side likely to win this and could be 2 or 3 goals up by now.

But hang on – Arsenal are playing against the undisputed, best team in the country, they have a terrible defensive record this season (by their standard) players are forced to play out of position due to injury or suspension, the fans baying for the manager’s blood. Surely Chelsea have to win? And yet Arsenal are by far and away the best side – so what’s the difference?

Mental Strength in Sport – is it all in the head?

Well, in my little world the answer is simple – this game will be won or lost in the heads of the players.

Chelsea undoubtedly have the better players so why is it that now (after 30 minutes) Chelsea have had their 1st shot on target, and are still 2nd best by far? (Arsenal just had another 2 really good chances go begging whilst writing)

Anyway, back to the blog… The Chelsea players won the league at a canter whilst Arsenal have underperformed all season, so who had the most to play for? Chelsea going for the double or Arsenal salvaging something from their season?

It’s now half time as I’m watching and although Chelsea have come back into it the only real team asking the questions are Arsenal.

The pundits are talking about Arsenal being brighter, sharper and more focused.

Sharp and Strong

Sharper and more focused? That’s a mental attribute, our mental abilities affect our physical abilities – the proof of that is easy to see. If ever you’ve felt sad or low – what are your energy levels like? Pretty poor I should imagine, and yet if you’re feeling positive and motivated, there’s a spring in your step, you feel energised and ready to take on the world.

If you want to know more about how the mindset effected players on the day, just take a look at the ratings that the players received on the day

The problem is that once you start a game mentally poor it’s difficult to change that mindset mid-game – half time is a good time to do that. The problem is that when you’ve been battered most of the half the attitude in the dressing room will be one of negativity rather than positivity.

Half time team talk?

Imagine the conversations in the two dressing rooms. Chelsea will be saying, come on we can do this we’re better than this – reinforcing the fact that they are underperforming, whilst Arsenal will be buzzing talking about keeping it going, keeping focused. As a sports hypnotherapist, it’s my job to make sure that players go out with the right attitude.

Positive Mental Attitude Hypnotherapy can help. Hypnotist Christ Fleet has years of experience of helping people in Paignton, South DevonAt the time of writing, Victor Moses has just been sent off for diving a.k.a. cheating, which is showing another sign of poor mental attitude.

What is interesting though, in the vein of this blog, is that Arsenal are now completely on top with a few minutes of Chelsea going down to 10 men – the physical signs of being a man down won’t show for a while so it’s undoubtedly mental immediately following the red card.

Ooooh, ¼ hour to go Chelsea equalise out of nowhere – this could be interesting… How will this affect the mindsets of both teams – OMG   2-1 Arsenal…. Straight away – going to stop writing for now – too exciting

What a game!!

Against all odds, it could have been 5 or 6 in the end.

The big question is, did Arsenal win the cup or did Chelsea lose it? I’ve been teaching my students a technique known as Swish.  Swish is a way of dismissing negative attitudes or outlooks.  If I was in the Chelsea dressing room before the game I would have used this swish technique to help them get focused because in my opinion, the Chelsea players were already on holiday in their heads before a ball was kicked. Whilst their conscious mind was focused on the game, their collective subconscious was possibly thinking the job was a done deal.

Let me explain….

My partner was a BHS qualified horse riding instructor when we first met. She was and still is, a very good horsewoman. We used to go for walks in the countryside with her on the horse and me walking the dogs. One day we came round the corner and there was an orange supermarket carrier bag stuck in the hedge. We all saw it and heard it rustling about, we all knew it was perfectly safe – except for Axel, the horse. Axel took one look at this thing, heard it rustle in the breeze and just bolted, there was nothing she could do to stop Axel from bolting. When I caught up with them if I’d have told Carol there was no point in bolting she’d have probably hit me one because it’s the horse that needs to know, not the rider.

I often talk about the difference between the Horse and the Rider,  whilst the rider might know what they want to do if the horse has different ideas it’s usually the horse that wins the battle.  in this case, the rider was The Logical mind and the horse the unconscious mind.  as far as Chelsea were concerned it would appear that the rider knew what to do but the horse I thought the job was done and so didn’t allow the players to have the mental strength and motivation required to overcome their opponents.

The game was won and lost in the mind before the ball was even kicked.

Exeter City

A day later, one of my local team’s, Exeter City were playing at Wembley too. They had really worked hard after a terrible start to the season and with an injury time winner made it very dramatically through to the play-off finals.

Despite being favourites to win, they lost 2-1 to Blackpool with pundits and fans alike saying that they ‘didn’t turn up.’ Some people saying it was ‘a game too far’ in the season. Really? A game too far?  What a load of old tosh…. 90 minutes at the most famous stadium in the world – and it was a game too far? Really?

No! Again the game was lost before a ball was kicked, it’s as much a mental game as a physical one once you reach a certain level.

Lenny the Lion

I remember playing against a striker called Lenny – so called because he looked like Lenny the Lion. I used to play centre-half and he was a centre-forward – he should have had me beat all ends up!

He was 15 years younger than me, loads faster. He had quick feet, was skillful on the ground as well as good in the air. I didn’t stand a chance …… on paper.

In reality, though he never ‘turned up’ when playing against me. I got inside his head. Early in the first game, we played against each other he made a good turn, spun round me but shot wide. I think I said something along the lines of. “I would have had a shot from there matey” Another time he beat me in the air, so I asked him how he did it. Did you lean left or right 1st? Which foot do you put your weight on? He gave me a bit of an odd look before telling me where to get off but I’d got to him. After that, he started consciously thinking about what he was doing which made him half a second slower every time. I heard him telling his teammate that he couldn’t get past me, the fact is he beat himself by thinking too much (rider) rather than trusting instinct (horse).

He always misses

On the rare occasion he did get past me I’d shout out to the keeper. “Don’t worry, it’s only Lenny, he always misses!” Invariably he’d blast the ball well wide or over the top.  At one point he even asked the ref to get me to stop…..

That season Lenny became the top scorer in the league and went on to play at a reasonable level. The thing is that whenever we played one another I had him totally in my pocket. He refused to shake my hand after games and accused me of ‘playing dirty’.

As soon as he saw he was playing against me he would be full of doubt. His body language changed whenever we made eye contact. He’d remember I was his jinx, he knew he would fail – and guess what?

Whenever he played against ME, he did fail…

Work with the subconscious

When I work with players I work on an unconscious level,  I work with Their horses whilst also talking to the rider. Suppose I had been working with Lenny as a sports hypnotist. I’d have reminded him (or rather his horse), that he was amazing. That he was unstoppable. That he was awesome! I’d have said that some old ‘has been’ that turned like the QE2 would be demolished. Both his horse and rider would know he was the best.

Einstein | Sports MotivationIs it magical, mystic and weird? Nope, not at all! It’s tapping into what is already there and not used fully. It’s accessing the part of our mind that has ultimate control over our body and attitude. Einstein once said “ The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

My job is to help footballers regain that gift.

If you want to know more give me a call

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Questions to Ask Your Therapist Before Treatment

Although Hypnotherapy is a trusted therapeutic process which accesses the subconscious. There are a few questions to ask your therapist before enlisting their services.

Hypnotherapy is used to treat several well-known issues such as agoraphobia and fear of flying. But did you know it can also be used for helping with problems such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, sports motivation, and pain relief?

questions to ask your therapistHypnosis is safe, pleasant and gets results.


It is important that you trust your hypnotherapist before commencing treatment.
A good way of discovering whether they are right for you is finding the right questions to ask your therapist before booking.
Any hypnotherapist of a reputable nature will encourage and answer. Below is a list of possible questions to ask your therapist before deciding if this treatment is right for you.

Questions to Ask Your Therapist

  • Do you offer a free consultation?
  • What type, if any, support do you offer between sessions?
  • Do you have relevant qualifications, professional body membership, insurance and a DBS check?
  • I would like ‘X’ sessions, can you fix my problem within this time constraint?
  • Do you have any useful tools such as MP3 tracks so that I can work on my problem(s)?
  • Do you offer a follow-up service?
  • How can you reassure me that I will always be in control during hypnosis?
  • Do you have any feedback from previous clients?
  • Is your consulting room suitable for me?
  • What happens if it doesn’t work?
  • From what I have discussed in this consultation, do you think hypnotherapy is suitable for me?

Once you have found the ideal Hypnotherapist, you can contact me here and begin to enjoy the numerous and wonderful benefits of hypnotherapy that I can offer.

In answer to the 1st question, yes consultations are free – so apart from an hour of your time – what is there to lose?