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How do you talk to yourself? Do you indulge in negative self talk?

Do you have negative self talk?

Did you know that the real skill of a stage hypnotist is to pick the right people to work with? Most people don’t respond as well as those that get picked to go on stage. However we tend to hypnotise ourselves most of the time without even realising it.  Quite often it’s with negative self talk, as people we can be very good at telling ourselves off and giving ourselves a hard time.  All that does is makes us feel bad and become even more aware of when we get things wrong.

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If you had a Siamese twin that just kept on having a go at you every time you made a mistake how long would it take for you to tell it to just go away (or words to that effect)? When we tell ourselves off however we just accept it, but why? Why can’t we change what we say to ourselves? Well, because most of the time we don’t even realise we are doing it. Once we do realise what we are doing then we can change it around, and I can show you how – if you’ll let me. I call it Sat Nav for the Soul

Mind WorksCome along to my clinic Sunday 21st June, I’m running a full day course for just £25.00 (bring a friend for half price) where I can explain to you how your mind works and how to talk to yourself properly. Hopefully yuo will find it as entertaining as others that have attended, so far we have got an average rating of 4.75 out of 5 with our customer satisfaction surveys.

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Sat Nav for the Soul

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Have you ever heard people say any of the following?

“I’m a really positive person but nothing ever works for me.”
“I always get in the wrong queue at supermarkets.”
“My life is rubbish (or words to that effect)”
“Why does this always happen to me?”

Some people talk about The Law of Attraction ie the more you believe something is going to happen the more you attract that from the ‘Universe’.

I’m a very pragmatic person and don’t necessarily buy into this whole stuff about our thoughts making cosmic powers attract positive or negative things towards us BUT……. That doesn’t mean the Law of Attraction doesn’t exist – far from it.

Have you ever been in a position where you are thinking about buying a new car or a new jacket for example? Perhaps you have already been to see similar either in person or online. If this is the case then the chances are you will suddenly begin to notice similar cars or jackets all over the place?
Does this mean that the world is suddenly full of new cars and jackets? No of course not but it does mean that you are much more aware of them.

Let’s take a look at some of the above statements:

“I’m a really positive person but nothing ever works for me.” I would quite happily reckon that this person posts up lots of positive quotes on facebook like live life to the full and the like but spends most of their time looking for things to go wrong. And therefore notices the things that go wrong – that way their “I’m really positive but…” statement becomes true – to them. The reality is that actually lots of good things might be happening but they’re too busy looking out for the bad that they don’t notice the good, or take the good for granted so therefore don’t acknowledge it or be grateful for it.

“I always get in the wrong queue at supermarkets.” – Really? How true is that statement then? Is that a fact or do you just ignore the times when you get to the quickest queue in the supermarket.

“My life is rubbish” Hmmmm, I bet that when this person is challenged about that statement they realise that it isn’t always that rubbish, it’s just that they focus on the negatives and ignore the positives.

“Why does this always happen to me?” It probably doesn’t, not 100% of the time….

So what can we do about it?

It’s easy really we begin to focus on what we do want. I can explain in greater detail during one of our one day seminars but effectively begin to list the things you DO want and when they arrive be grateful. It doesn’t need to be earth shatteringly amazing, it could be something like getting in the quickest queue at the supermarket. If it doesn’t happen then perhaps mentally shrug and wait for the next time. But when it does happen make a mental note of it, be grateful. You don’t have to send your gratitude out to the universe unless you really want to. Just be grateful and guess what … the more grateful you are the more you’ll notice the good things and shrug off the bad. Unless of course you have a mantra of “I’m always grateful but ……” in which case you’re still noticing the ‘but’ more than anything else ……

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Can hypnosis be a Tinnitus treatment

What do you know about tinnitus treatment?

The medical profession generally understand that hypnotherapy is believed to be a tinnitus treatment but more research is needed.

I currently have four clients on my books suffering with tinnitus and all have responded differently. Yesterday though was the most dramatic….

The person in question has had tinnitus for over 20 years and was told by the hospital 10 or more years ago that he would just have to ‘live with it’ at which point he gave up hope of ever being able to control it.treatment for tinnitus

His wife bought him three sessions with me for Christmas and to say that he turned up a bit sceptical is probably the understatement of the year. The first session went ok but not great although the client maybe had a misconstrued idea of what hypnosis was – due in part to seeing some stage stuff.

The second session was a bit better but still no change and then yesterday he came in saying that the last week had been worse than ever describing it as a full on shriek that kept him awake til 1.30am.

Actually rather than be dismayed that was music to my ears (excuse the pun) as it meant things were shifting. An hour after coming in saying that it was worse than ever the client left saying that for the first time in over 20 years it had completely gone from one ear and greatly reduced in the other. We sat and talked a bit and 20 minutes later it was still the same. The look of shock and bemusement on this guy’s face was quite a sight but the look of wonder was more than money could ever buy.

How did he manage to use hypnosis as a tinnitus treatment?

Most of the real work was done in the two previous sessions (there’s a reason I ask people to book in for three) and during the pre-talk of yesterday’s session where certain suggestions were subliminally put to him. Once in hypnosis those suggestions were reinforced and a few visualisation techniques used, he seemed to struggle with these but it’s so important to remember the horse and rider analogy that we don’t need to worry about his conscious mind and above all believe in yourself and your abilities.

If you want to know more either as a client or learn how to help others then check out the rest of my website, it’s packed full of information.

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What is a panic attack – how to deal with a panic attack

Have you ever had a panic attack?

If you have then you will know how debilitating it really can be. If you haven’t then it would be useful to know what happens just in case you know someone who does suffer from them.

It is important to remember that as sophisticated as we might like to think that we are the truth is we are animals and when faced with danger, either perceived or real we react just like an animal would.

Here are some of the things that happen to us during a panic attack and why we react as a wild animal would:
  • arachnophobiaDry mouth – if we are being chased in the wild by a man eating tiger we want clear airways to breathe properly.
  • Rapid breathing – once we can breathe properly we want to oxygenate our blood more effectively.
  • Racing heart – we want to send that oxygen rich blood to our muscles so we can either run or fight more effectively.
  • Dizziness – all that oxygen in our blood isn’t being expelled through physical exercise so it goes to into our brain making us feel light headed.
  • Lack of appetite (short term) if we are being chased by a bear we don’t want to stop and eat some berries because we’re hungry!
  • Go as ‘white as a ghost’ – we don’t want to bleed profusely if we’re cut so the blood doesn’t go to our skin surface as much
  • Hair standing on end/goosebumps –  in the days when we were much hairier it improved our sense of touch.
  • Eyes dilate – we want to see what we are facing so our pupils dilate to improve peripheral vision
  • Churning stomach – our stomach will shrink and move further up behind the rib-cage for added protection
What to do if experience a panic attack:-
  • self hypnosisFace up to it – if you’ve experienced a panic attack before you will generally know what’s going to happen next, so tell yourself something along the lines of “now this will happen….” it won’t make it any nicer when it comes but it takes the panic away and in some cases stops the attack in it’s tracks.
  • Breathe – slow regular breathing may be difficult but when we are relaxed our breathing is slow so by deliberately slowing down our breathing we convince our mind into thinking that everything’s OK
  • Get some exercise – as we see from above the whole thing about a panic attack is to help the fight or flight response – so use it the way it’s meant to be used by moving.
  • Suck on a boiled sweet – when we are relaxed we salivate, when we are tense we get a dry mouth. sucking on a boiled sweet helps the mind think that everything is OK
Prevention is better than cure :-

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Has Mick Jagger had his Nineteenth Nervous Breakdown?

Mick Jagger looking Stressed

Did you know that Mick Jagger was diagnosed with acute traumatic stress disorder after the death of his girlfriend L’Wren Scott’?

The 71 year old singer postponed their tour of Australia and New Zealand after his girlfriend of 13 years hung herself.

Acute traumatic stress disorder can lead to symptoms such as flashbacks, nightmares, feelings of guilt and emotional numbness.

If they persist for more than a month it becomes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, the condition usually associated with soldiers returning home from battle.

Stress can affect different people in different ways and all too often we don’t realise we have it until it is too late. Have you found yourself getting unnecessarily angry, do you ever feel dizzy; do you have trouble sleeping;

Our ‘Learn How Your Mind Works’ day can help you with many of these symptoms.

Have you checked your diet recently?

Have you looked at your work-life balance recently?

How do you talk to yourself?

Are you kind to yourself?

Do you take regular breaks?

Do you drink too much?

Do you smoke?

Are you overweight?

All these things can contribute to a stressful lifestyle and we can help you help yourself to break this cycle.

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Does hypnotherapy work for weight loss ?

Does hypnotherapy work for weight loss really work?

It’s a common question, Does hypnotherapy work for weight loss ? I mean really work? Does hypnotherapy work for weight loss?

I had a client come in for his 3rd session yesterday, to preserve his anonymity let’s call him Big Al. Big Al joked that he was on a seafood diet – he would see food and eat it. Session 1 had gone well, we had discussed things from a cognitive approach and we had done a bit of weight loss hypnotherapy. Session 2 Big Al was very chipper, he had definitely eaten less and exercised more, unfortunately the scales said otherwise – he had gained a whole two ounces! TWO OUNCES I TELL YOU – TWO OUNCES

Had he been cheating? I doubt it. Were the scales wrong? I doubt that either, we check them against other scales every week. Big Al was not a happy bunny …………..

Yesterday Big Al came in a bit dejected, “Well I don’t know,” he said “Does hypnotherapy work for weight loss really work?”

So we went to the office and I asked him how his week had been. The conversation went a bit like this.

healthy eatingMe:        How’s it been going Al? Have you noticed any difference?
Big Al:    Nope! Nothing…..

Me:        OK, well that’s unusual, how about crisps? How many bags have you had this week?
Big Al:    Well I haven’t actually had any now you come to mention it.

Me:        Okay, well what about chocolate? How many bars of chocolate have you had?
Big Al:    Errrrr…. None actually

Me:        OK, well what about take away’s? How many of those have you had?
Big Al:    Well, like you said, they’re just so expensive and full of fat & grease that the wife and I decided to cook our own meals.

Me:        So there HAVE been changes then?
Big Al:    Well not really…..

Me:        (Not for public viewing)

At this point I asked Al to step on the scales, he had lost 5lbs since his 1st visit.
Big Al then pointed out that of course he had. He’d cut out the rubbish and ate healthily over the last couple of weeks. Big Al still didn’t think that hypnotherapy works for weight loss though.

You see some (most) people come to a hypnotherapy session with a preconceived idea at some level, often gleaned through stuff they have seen on TV or stage. They expect crash, bang, wallop and a parting of the seas, when you explain that things just happen slowly and naturally they don’t quite get it. It’s a bit like watching your children grow up, it happens so slowly that you don’t notice it until all of a sudden the Barbie posters come down and the boy band posters go up, then next thing you know it’s GCSE’s and nightclubs (not always in that order) .

With hypnotherapy for weight loss, the hypnotherapy is the catalyst for change, it’s a life style change bought about from within and very difficult to define.

By the way – Big Al phoned up this morning and booked a top up session – I think he thought about some of the things I said to him after his ‘not really’ statement.

 

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Depression

Coping with Grief

Coping with Grief

Top Tips on How to Deal With Grief

DepressionGrief is a natural response to losing someone or something you love or care deeply about.

 

 
Get Support The significance of support cannot be overestimated and is probably the most important factor in dealing with loss. There are a number of ways support can be accessed.

 

  • Friends and family- Often with grief we want to shut ourselves away however this is the time to call on those closest to us. Tell those closest to you what you need. Often people want to help but don’t know how, and accept the assistance that is offered. A shoulder to cry on and a listening ear is a positive way to work through and release intense emotions.
  • Hypnotherapy – Grief can be such an overwhelming experience that it becomes too difficult to cope with alone. Grief can feel very lonely even with a good support network of friends and family and in these cases an experienced therapist or specialist in grief counselling can often help you work through intense emotions and overcome any unresolved obstacles to your grieving.
  • Other therapies – Therapies such as Massage can help in times of grief. Taking care of yourself is usually the last thing on the mind when experiencing grief however, it is one of the most important things you can do. Allowing your body to fully relax can be one way of letting go of built up emotion whether it be anger, sadness or stress. Often with Massage, certain emotions are released whether you are expecting it to or not.
  • Another therapy that it useful in difficult times is Reiki. This is a healing therapy which also helps in the grieving process. People often say that they feel they have a lot more energy after a session of Reiki. Others say that they fall asleep during a treatment and feel very relaxed afterwards. The body can react in many different ways, it is usually depending on what emotional and sometimes physical state the patient is at the time.

Here at The New Devon Clinic we offer a range of treatments including the ones mentioned above.

If you are struggling with the death of a loved one and would like to take a step in the right direction please do not hesitate to give us a call.

 

  • Faith- Ones faith can often be a source of comfort. Solace can come through any spiritual activity that is meaningful to the individual. This may include prayer, meditation, going to church or groups where there is a shared unity and support can be drawn.
  • Support Groups- Sharing ones grief and sadness with others who are or who have experienced similar losses can be a great source of comfort there are often bereavement support groups in many areas. To find one in your area contact local hospitals, hospices, funeral homes, and counselling or holistic centres.
  • Keeping a diary- This will help you to recognise and be aware of your feelings. You will be able to reflect from day to day on your state of mind as often throughout the grief process one day so easily leads into the next. Also the diary can include special memories and thoughts etc as they arise. This can be useful in the future to look back on and to treasure.
  • Time- Grief can be quite a painful process which can uncover and bring to the surface a whole range of feeling and emotions. In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what was to become known as the 5 stages of grief. These being: Denial, anger, Bargaining, Depression and finally acceptance and although not everybody goes through all the processes, or even any, the grieving process is an individual experience and one that should not be rushed. Just know that you’ll heal in time, there is no predictable timescale and however difficult it is it is normal. Time is crucial so allow yourself as much as you need.

If you feel that you need support please feel free to drop us a line or give us a call on 01803 500300

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Common thinking errors

Common thinking errors :

We all have them – here are just a few

  When we suffer with Anxiety, worry, depression and many other complaints we generally suffer from some of the more  Common Thinking Errors. The trick is to see what to do with these thinking errors once we have identified them for this you need to use a technique known as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or CBT when combined with hypnosis this becomes Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy and can be very very powerful.

Here are a few of the most common thinking errors.Self Hypnosis

All or nothing thinking Also known as black and white thinking the judgment does not allow for shades of grey somebody with all or nothing thinking will believe for example, if I’m not a great success then I must be a failure.

Jumping to conclusions

Mind reading Somebody who is nervous may believe their audience is hyper-critical – this is an unfounded assumption.  The client may speculate about what other people are thinking without any evidence.

Fortune Telling Another form of unfounded assumption, when somebody talks and thinks as though something is bound to happen, despite a lack of evidence.  This can lead to a self fulfilling prophecy.

Labeling “I am a complete idiot” or “I am useless” are classic forms of self labeling.  It is also possible to characterise or stigmatise others such as “Anyone who like Coronation Street must be a dull person”

Magnification When somebody exaggerate the importance of something ie making a mountain out of a molehill.

Minimization The trivialization of important things

Over-generalisation All men are aggressive is a classic example – tarring with the same brush is another example.

Discounting the positive The positive fact is acknowledged but trivialized and the importance thus dismissed.

Mental Filter : Selective Abstraction Selective thinking is another term, we deliberately ignore certain facts and focus on others – usually the worst possible set of circumstances.

Should and Must Someone may claim that they must pass their exams – there is no evidence to say that they must, A should statement can be changed to a can statement

Emotional Reasoning We allow our heart to rule our head in a negative way – if in an unhealthy frame of mind our emotions are often distorted  

Catastrophising Pre-occupation with the idea of things in the future going disastrously wrong

Personalisation Falsely assuming responsibility or excessive absolute responsibility

Blame Falsely attributing responsibility to others for something

Comparisons “I can do it, so why can’t they?” Or “They can do it so why can’t I?”

Awfulization “Wouldn’t it be awful if ………….” This leads to negative thinking and sufferers quickly find themselves discounting the positive or Catastrophising

What if? Similar to Awfulization the “What if” mind set focuses on the negatives “What if it all goes horribly wrong?” for example, this is similar to Discounting the Positive but with future projection.


 

If you were to find anyone claiming not to suffer with at least one of the thinking errors listed please get their signature as they may well be a saint.
The simple truth is that we all suffer from one or more of these thinking errors from time to time. It’s when they become a belief that we struggle.

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