Anger, we all know what it is, and we’ve all felt it:
Anger is surprisingly a healthy emotion in normal circumstances
We have to remember that despite the technological world we live in we are still animals. Anger is a natural response to threats allowing us to become aggressive when attacked. In the wild a certain amount of anger is necessary for our survival.
It’s when anger gets out of control and turns destructive that we have to be careful. We don’t live in the wild now and we can’t just go around lashing out at everything or everyone that annoys us!
I’ve dealt with people who have completely self destructed with anger both at work and at home. The worst thing for many people is they feel they have no control over it.
We can harbour grudges and grievances we may feel we are being unfairly treated, that the world is wrong, all sorts of things. thoughts and emotions can rumble along in the back of our mind causing frustration and anger.
A couple of tips to help deal with anger
- Try to express yourself – by being assertive and non-aggressive you can explain your situation and above point out your boundaries. Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.
- Supress you anger – The idea is to stop thinking about the thing that angers you and focus on something positive. Be careful though, this can be a dangerous activity if it is turned inward and can cause high blood-pressure or depression.
- Learn to relax, something as simple as a good massage can help in the short term
With the help of hypnosis, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.