Hypnosis and gardening have a lot in common.
The other day I was up at our little plot of land at near the Haldon Hills in Devon – we call it “Our Piece of Heaven in Devon”
I had just put the horses away, lit the fire-pit and sat watching the sunset over Dartmoor. I began to think how lucky I really was. We had just eaten a completely organic meal grown out of our garden and were playing silly games with our daughter. Not bad for a North London lad who had certainly seen the underbelly of society on more than a few occasions – but that’s another story.
Then, whilst wandering down to pick some fruit for a snack I realised that actually luck had very little to do with it at all.
I chose to leave my London environment for the Devon life, many people thought I was daft for coming down to Torquay, I didn’t have a penny to my name or a job or anything but it was my choice – not luck.
Looking at the stables I began working out how many blocks would be needed to rebuild the back wall. Again I thought how lucky I was to have the skill-set to do such a thing. Well actually no that wasn’t luck either. I started my working life as a diesel fitter in a factory and hated it with a vengeance so I went into the building trade as a hod-carrier, from there I put myself through training both at college and on site to become a qualified bricklayer – that wasn’t luck, it was hard and often painful work. Now many years later I run a successful hypnotherapy practice and help people make some really positive changes in their lives so that’s quite lucky – or is it? I train people to Diploma standard in the art and science of hypnotherapy so that’s not bad – again I worked hard at it – it wasn’t luck by any stretch of the imagination.
So what about our beautiful bit of Heaven in Devon? Surely we are lucky to have such a wonderful spot? Well actually that wasn’t luck either, we didn’t win the lottery or get given it, my wonderful partner Carol and I stretched ourselves and took the plunge financially. Our vegetable patch used to be an old muck heap that had become overgrown with weeds, brambles and stinging nettles. We (well Carol mainly) cultivated it and turned it into a beautiful patch where our daughter can eat healthily. No luck their either, just hard work and determination. We planted seeds, we nurtured them and encouraged them to grow. Like it says in the bible ….. “for whatever one sows, that will he also reap” – just like hypnotherapy really. Whatever you say to yourself, whether it be positive, negative, authoritarian, angry, sad or just plain boring that is the internal message you are giving yourself. It really is all about perspective. Is there luck in the world? Well I think that there is, I also think that we have a lot more control over our own destiny than we may realise, we just need to change our perspective….